Negative Thoughts Are Keeping You From Succeeding

Ms. Pillowz — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 10:00:26 +0000

Aka I’m Prepared? Part 2…

Aren’t you sick of the pity party? Aren’t you tired of the frustration? The feeling of being let down once again? I know that I am! What about you?

Those Pesky Negative Thoughts

Over the course of our lifetime, we’ve adopted negative self talk. It’s a habit that starts pretty early in life. Some have a better handle on it than others, but we’ve all had to deal with it on some level. There have been times that took a swim in a pool full of negative thoughts. I am such a fat loser. I am never going to lose this weight. I will never amount to anything. I’m not special. No one will ever love me. My life will suck forever. Those thoughts produced a feeling of suckiness, but somehow we managed to cope and move on. We didn’t know how much damage those thoughts actually caused.

Thoughts become a part of your unconscious beliefs, which are those underlying beliefs that shape the course of your life. The unconscious mind is very powerful. It’s the auto pilot or the default. It’s the part of you that really runs the show. That is why those negative thoughts, those affirmations from the past have enough power to affect us in the present day and have the potential to do so in the future.

Does this scenario sound familiar to you? You set a goal to lose 25 pounds. You’re successful at first, but somehow you lose steam. You work hard to keep going, but it’s like swimming upstream against a strong current. The next thing you know, you’re right back to square negative ten. Not only did you gain back the weight that you lost, but some additional pounds decided to join the party. Basically, your unconscious mind shifted gears and took you back to your default.

Good News!

Information is power. Now you know what you’re dealing with and knowing is half the battle. You also know that all of your unsuccessful attempts at long term change couldn’t be avoided, so stop beating yourself up! It only makes things worse! Lastly, even though you can’t escape your unconscious mind, you CAN change it. There are tons of techniques and methods that have changed the lives of tens to hundreds of thousands of people.

I’m going to try out a few of methods and review them here. We can even do it together! Why not?? We’re fighting for the same things! I want to live out my fantasies of being happy, healthy, and wealthy AND I want to eat my cake with real freakin’ frosting! Ok, ok… I digress, but I know you want cake too. Hell, everybody wants cake.

So be my partners in crime! Ok, maybe not crime. Be my partners in science… the science of the mind. *insert dramatic pause here and cue creepy music* I like it! lol

Let’s Get Started With EFT… even though I already did.

What is EFT? EFT is the acronym for Emotional Freedom Technique. It was founded by Gary Craig in 1995 during his quest for personal well being. It involves tapping on acupressure points or “energy meridians” in order to remove blockages. Fifteen years later, it is still being credited for changing the lives of so many people. The great thing about EFT is that it can be used to change ANY behavior or fix any problematic emotion or behavior: fear, sadness, unworthiness, phobias, pain, anger, addictions, and so on.

Here are some links and a video demonstration of the tapping points.

World Center for EFT

I Am Prepared?

Ms. Pillowz — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 23:25:06 +0000

You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space. -Johnny Cash

Space and light and order. Those are the things that men need just as much as they need bread or a place to sleep. -Le Corbusier

Your personal space says a lot about you. How you live, how you handle life. It’s a testament to how you treat your body and what you think about yourself. Your personal space says a lot.

I’ll be honest. My personal space is cluttered. I exhibit pack rat tendencies. Physically and emotionally, this is how I’ve been known to roll. I keep things. Things that don’t mean anything. Things that no longer serve a purpose in my life. Things that I think that I need, but don’t use and things that I think may come in handy later. Emotionally, it is the same thing. I keep things, defense mechanisms that I don’t need, fears that do me no good, guilt for things that have long since been paid for, unwarranted shame, and built up anger. In both cases, I can say that I am not a candidate for Hoarders on Bravo. My “house” is neat, it’s all organized confusion, an oxymoron if there ever was one. I buy plastic containers, pretty boxes, and tall shelves to provide additional storage options, but let’s face it. No matter how or where things are stored, it is still clutter and it isn’t good to keep. Clutter of any kind blocks energy flow, creativity, focus, and blessings. I’ve started on the good foot so many times.

I’ve made changes. I’ve lost weight. I’ve cleaned up, but as my house reflects, I have not truly released things. Therefore, the changes that I’ve made revert back to my default. The weight that was lost finds its way back. The creative flow and productivity comes to a halt and things return to a disorganized state. How am I back here? It’s like a boomerang. You can throw it far, but it always comes back. Forward progress is good. Actually, it’s great. Who in their “right mind” wants to go back? Notice that “right mind” is in bold. In order to keep moving forward, your mind has to be right.

How many cases have you seen where someone has lost weight in some dramatic way, (pills, a fad diet, surgery), and after losing tens to hundreds of pounds, they eventually gain back the weight? What about all of those people who’ve won millions from the lottery only to end up totally broke in a matter of years? Their minds weren’t right. Their houses weren’t in order. It was filled with the clutter of their negative beliefs that got them to where they were to begin with: overweight, broke, lonely, unhappy, or depressed or all of the above. They weren’t prepared and neither was I. So, how could any of us expect lasting change? I’m curious to know your thoughts.

To be continued…

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Negative Thoughts Are Keeping You From Succeeding

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