Comments on: I Am Prepared? http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/ Big Diva Headquarters - Where Big Girls Go to Become Big Divas Mon, 17 Oct 2011 15:20:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: Ms. Pillowz http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/comment-page-1/#comment-292 Ms. Pillowz Wed, 15 Sep 2010 14:22:00 +0000 http://bigdivahq.com/?p=268#comment-292 Thank you so much for your comment! It is so inspiring and definitely had some great points. I especially liked this line, "but i always say, regardless of the things that we don't care for about ourselves the first step is to show ourselves love...to note the problem/issues but not get stuck in them..." I struggle with this often. I get so engrossed in these things that I sometimes can't see past them. I get stuck on it and I am sure that I'm not alone, but like you also said, I am trying some new things like EFT to help me deal better with the issues and treat myself better with more love and kindness. Thank you again for your moving comments. :-) Thank you so much for your comment! It is so inspiring and definitely had some great points. I especially liked this line, “but i always say, regardless of the things that we don’t care for about ourselves the first step is to show ourselves love…to note the problem/issues but not get stuck in them…” I struggle with this often. I get so engrossed in these things that I sometimes can’t see past them. I get stuck on it and I am sure that I’m not alone, but like you also said, I am trying some new things like EFT to help me deal better with the issues and treat myself better with more love and kindness. Thank you again for your moving comments. :-)

]]> By: Curvatude http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/comment-page-1/#comment-291 Curvatude Tue, 07 Sep 2010 14:20:00 +0000 http://bigdivahq.com/?p=268#comment-291 i have been a pack rat forever! my mom was and i just took on the same characteristic. as i have gotten older i have more and more worked to take control of it...although it doesnt stop me from doing things, it does get in the way...literally... but i have worked really hard since i have been on my own at 18 to make my life my own...to not allow the things that are counter to living the life i want dominate and rule.. as a result i have assigned this clutter to a place...like its not the defining point...its one point.. but as i said...now at 41 i am way over it...so more and more...i have to remove it...i have to make space... but i always say, regardless of the things that we don't care for about ourselves the first step is to show ourselves love...to note the problem/issues but not get stuck in them... to take one step at a time....i now take 15 minute increments to just get rid of stuff via the trash or a freecycle post or bagging up to drop in the donation boxes.. but as far as releasing emotional clutter goes, i can only add that for me...EFT has helped. meditation has helped. being selfish and putting myself first has helped. not feeling a need to be conventional has helped. so i would suggest...that you try a variety of things...which as i am writing this post, i already know that you have begun to do so...but make sure whatever you do, you do it with love... i have been a pack rat forever! my mom was and i just took on the same characteristic.

as i have gotten older i have more and more worked to take control of it…although it doesnt stop me from doing things, it does get in the way…literally…

but i have worked really hard since i have been on my own at 18 to make my life my own…to not allow the things that are counter to living the life i want dominate and rule..

as a result i have assigned this clutter to a place…like its not the defining point…its one point..

but as i said…now at 41 i am way over it…so more and more…i have to remove it…i have to make space…

but i always say, regardless of the things that we don’t care for about ourselves the first step is to show ourselves love…to note the problem/issues but not get stuck in them…

to take one step at a time….i now take 15 minute increments to just get rid of stuff via the trash or a freecycle post or bagging up to drop in the donation boxes..

but as far as releasing emotional clutter goes, i can only add that for me…EFT has helped. meditation has helped. being selfish and putting myself first has helped. not feeling a need to be conventional has helped.

so i would suggest…that you try a variety of things…which as i am writing this post, i already know that you have begun to do so…but make sure whatever you do, you do it with love…

]]> By: Ms. Pillowz http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/comment-page-1/#comment-188 Ms. Pillowz Tue, 20 Jul 2010 15:10:25 +0000 http://bigdivahq.com/?p=268#comment-188 That's right! One day at a time, that's all you can do. You can only control the present. The present has been on my mind lately. A recent affirmation that I have been saying is that I am perfect for this moment. I say it, because I am doing the best that I can with what I am given, so it is perfect for right now. I found a good quote about it today: "The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly." -Buddha You're welcome for the shout out. Thanks for such a great blog. :-) That’s right! One day at a time, that’s all you can do. You can only control the present. The present has been on my mind lately. A recent affirmation that I have been saying is that I am perfect for this moment. I say it, because I am doing the best that I can with what I am given, so it is perfect for right now. I found a good quote about it today: “The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.” -Buddha

You’re welcome for the shout out. Thanks for such a great blog. :-)

]]> By: Chasing Joy http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/comment-page-1/#comment-187 Chasing Joy Sun, 18 Jul 2010 19:15:41 +0000 http://bigdivahq.com/?p=268#comment-187 There is definately a certain amount of fear that keeps us from making change. The hard part is truely understanding and idetntifying the fears. I am struggleing with these same issues just like the rest of us. One day at a time working on being a better you. P.S. Thanks for the shout out Ms. Pillowz. There is definately a certain amount of fear that keeps us from making change. The hard part is truely understanding and idetntifying the fears. I am struggleing with these same issues just like the rest of us. One day at a time working on being a better you.

P.S. Thanks for the shout out Ms. Pillowz.

]]> By: Ms. Pillowz http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/comment-page-1/#comment-186 Ms. Pillowz Wed, 14 Jul 2010 19:47:56 +0000 http://bigdivahq.com/?p=268#comment-186 Thank you for your comment, Christopher! Grease... So true, even if it makes no sense. Stick with us as we talk about the process of clearing out. :-) Thank you for your comment, Christopher! Grease… So true, even if it makes no sense. Stick with us as we talk about the process of clearing out. :-)

]]> By: Christopher D.Weaver http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/comment-page-1/#comment-185 Christopher D.Weaver Wed, 14 Jul 2010 14:51:53 +0000 http://bigdivahq.com/?p=268#comment-185 Energy can either be in motion or not at all...If we don't clear the space that is needed for it to flow properly, it may not move to its proper destination. What you said was quite accurate and needed. I am thinking about how being raised down south, especially in a African American home, that we were taught to never throw anything away, unless it was necessary. Grease, old clothes, etc..as silly as it may sound, was always recycled. But I guess I never thought about how bad feelings and emotions and spirits can be recycled over and over again, food for thought! Thanks for posting this :) Energy can either be in motion or not at all…If we don’t clear the space that is needed for it to flow properly, it may not move to its proper destination. What you said was quite accurate and needed. I am thinking about how being raised down south, especially in a African American home, that we were taught to never throw anything away, unless it was necessary. Grease, old clothes, etc..as silly as it may sound, was always recycled. But I guess I never thought about how bad feelings and emotions and spirits can be recycled over and over again, food for thought! Thanks for posting this :)

]]> By: Ms. Pillowz http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/comment-page-1/#comment-184 Ms. Pillowz Tue, 13 Jul 2010 20:35:04 +0000 http://bigdivahq.com/?p=268#comment-184 Wow... Your comment was so deep. Thank you so much for sharing. You are most certainly not alone. That is the question that many of us ask ourselves. <strong><em>Why can't I let myself be great?</strong></em> I think that it is mostly <strong>fear</strong> that keeps us from doing so. We know what to expect at our current place. It is <strong>the devil we know</strong> and doing something different leaves us open to anything. I was listening to a podcast yesterday where a woman who struggled with her weight, one day sat down on her bed and out of anger and frustration started saying to her body, "I hate you! I hate you!" She said that her body answered her by saying, "But <strong>I'm just trying to help you. I only want to protect you.</strong>" When I heard that, my body resonated so strongly with that feeling and I instantly started to cry. <strong>There is a lifetime of hurt, pain, disappointment, and anger in all of us, that we, at some point, have to let go of in order to progress.</strong> I sincerely commend you for the effort that you are making on your journey. It brings to mind a friend's blog about her search for for joy. I highly recommend it: Chasing Joy or Maybe Just Running From Boredom. (www.chasingjoyrunningfromboredom.blogspot.com) <strong>Peace and many blessings to you!</strong> Wow… Your comment was so deep. Thank you so much for sharing.

You are most certainly not alone. That is the question that many of us ask ourselves. Why can’t I let myself be great? I think that it is mostly fear that keeps us from doing so. We know what to expect at our current place. It is the devil we know and doing something different leaves us open to anything.

I was listening to a podcast yesterday where a woman who struggled with her weight, one day sat down on her bed and out of anger and frustration started saying to her body, “I hate you! I hate you!” She said that her body answered her by saying, “But I’m just trying to help you. I only want to protect you.” When I heard that, my body resonated so strongly with that feeling and I instantly started to cry. There is a lifetime of hurt, pain, disappointment, and anger in all of us, that we, at some point, have to let go of in order to progress.

I sincerely commend you for the effort that you are making on your journey. It brings to mind a friend’s blog about her search for for joy. I highly recommend it: Chasing Joy or Maybe Just Running From Boredom. (www.chasingjoyrunningfromboredom.blogspot.com)

Peace and many blessings to you!

]]> By: freeyourheart http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/comment-page-1/#comment-183 freeyourheart Tue, 13 Jul 2010 19:46:06 +0000 http://bigdivahq.com/?p=268#comment-183 sometimes, i think my own baggage prevents me from my greatness, and i have to ask myself, why won't i let myself be great?! in theory, it's so easy to free yourself, and live up to your potential. the truth is, it's hard and scary. my two biggest issues are my weight (either accepting my body 100% & not caring about the number, or truly doing the work to be as healthy as i want to be) and finding unconditional love. i hold onto the past. i keep my thoughts realistic, as to not disappoint myself. but your question is so valid: how can we expect lasting change if our minds aren't right first?! since i don't have the unconditional love of my nuclear family, and therefore am unsure if i have it with my besties, i'm trying to find unconditional love with myself, starting by focusing on the good in my life and the triumphs i've made despite the obstacles. thank you for this post! sometimes,
i think my own baggage prevents me from my greatness,
and i have to ask myself,
why won’t i let myself be great?!

in theory,
it’s so easy to free yourself,
and live up to your potential.
the truth is,
it’s hard and scary.

my two biggest issues are my weight
(either accepting my body 100% & not caring about the number,
or truly doing the work to be as healthy as i want to be)
and finding unconditional love.

i hold onto the past.
i keep my thoughts realistic,
as to not disappoint myself.

but your question is so valid:
how can we expect lasting change if our minds aren’t right first?!

since i don’t have the unconditional love of my nuclear family,
and therefore am unsure if i have it with my besties,
i’m trying to find unconditional love with myself,
starting by focusing on the good in my life
and the triumphs i’ve made despite the obstacles.

thank you for this post!

]]> By: Ms. Pillowz http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/comment-page-1/#comment-182 Ms. Pillowz Tue, 13 Jul 2010 19:15:47 +0000 http://bigdivahq.com/?p=268#comment-182 Your friend is so right! Clutter takes up so much space in both cases. You can't pile beautiful new things on top of crap and expect things to be great. It doesn't work that way. We've got to get in there and clean it all out so that we can make space for the new. I'll leave you with my quote of the day from Tori Amos, "Some people are afraid of what they might find if they try to analyze themselves too much, but you have to crawl into your wounds to discover where your fears are. Once the bleeding starts, the cleansing can begin." Your friend is so right! Clutter takes up so much space in both cases. You can’t pile beautiful new things on top of crap and expect things to be great. It doesn’t work that way. We’ve got to get in there and clean it all out so that we can make space for the new. I’ll leave you with my quote of the day from Tori Amos, “Some people are afraid of what they might find if they try to analyze themselves too much, but you have to crawl into your wounds to discover where your fears are. Once the bleeding starts, the cleansing can begin.”

]]> By: arelis http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/comment-page-1/#comment-181 arelis Mon, 12 Jul 2010 02:07:21 +0000 http://bigdivahq.com/?p=268#comment-181 we are so on the same page! You'll see why later of course :) I work on that every week, getting rid of stuff that I know i'm not going to use by either throwing it away, giving it away or donating it to good will. Someone once told me that if we hold onto the things that do not "really matter", how can we expect to get the things to come that do "really matter" I can't wait to read the rest, thanks for giving us something to think about! we are so on the same page! You’ll see why later of course :) I work on that every week, getting rid of stuff that I know i’m not going to use by either throwing it away, giving it away or donating it to good will. Someone once told me that if we hold onto the things that do not “really matter”, how can we expect to get the things to come that do “really matter” I can’t wait to read the rest, thanks for giving us something to think about!

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