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		<title>I Am Prepared?</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/i-am-prepared/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Jul 2010 23:25:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Personal Development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[belief]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[change]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[clearing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[clutter]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[progress]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I'll be honest.  My personal space is cluttered.  I exhibit pack rat tendencies.  Physically and emotionally, this is how I've been known to roll. I keep things.  Things that don't mean anything.  Things that no longer serve a purpose in my life.  Things that I think that I need, but don't use and things that I think may come in handy later.  Emotionally, it is the same thing.  I keep things, defense mechanisms that I don't need, fears that do me no good, guilt for things that have long since been paid for, unwarranted shame, and built up anger.  In both cases, I can say that I am not a candidate for Hoarders on Bravo.  My "house" is neat, it's all organized confusion, an oxymoron if there ever was one.  I buy plastic containers, pretty boxes, and tall shelves to provide additional storage options, but let's face it.  No matter how or where things are stored, it is still clutter and it isn't good to keep.  Clutter of any kind blocks energy flow, creativity, focus, and blessings.  I've started on the good foot so many times.  

I've made changes.  I've lost weight.  I've cleaned up, but as my house reflects, I have not truly released things.  Therefore, the changes that I've made revert back to my default.  The weight that was lost finds its way back.  The creative flow and productivity comes to a halt and things return to a disorganized state.  How am I back here?...
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		<title>Hear ye!  Hear ye!</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/hear-ye-hear-ye/</link>
		<comments>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/hear-ye-hear-ye/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Jun 2010 18:22:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Personal Development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[books]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://bigdivahq.com/?p=263</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Ms. Pillowz and DJRelat7 cordially invite you to to join us at the Dust Off Your Books Club!

It turns out that DJRelat7 and I have purchasing moratoriums on books.  The reason being is that we already have SOOO many books that we haven't read yet.  We realized that we need to focus on reading the ones we have first before buying new ones.  It was during this discussion that the Dust Off Your Books Club was born.

Join us on Live Journal (free), then become a member of the Dust Off Your Books Club community at http://community.livejournal.com/dust_off_books/.  The official kick off date is June 7th, so be sure to have your book ready!  Tell your friends too!!]]></description>
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		<title>The Approach</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/the-approach/</link>
		<comments>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/the-approach/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 25 May 2010 02:30:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Lesson Learned]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[intention]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[law of attraction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[lesson]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://bigdivahq.com/?p=256</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[When I first heard that I would be going to California, I was pretty nervous.  I had no idea what to expect.  I mean, it's the OC for goodness sakes.  Wasn't there a show on tv of the same name?  Any and everything that I've ever seen or heard about Cali is that everyone is tiny, blond, shallow, and has fake body parts.   In my mind, this definitely wasn't a Big Diva friendly place at all.  The worst case scenario is that I would be looked at and treated like Shrek.

Do you see what I did here?  Based on fictional movies and shows, I was bracing myself.  I was developing the chip on my shoulder.  I WAS CREATING THE INTENTION! (Law of Attraction).  My assumption that everyone in the LA /OC area was or wanted to look like a stuck up Barbie doll caused me to think that they would look down their noses at me. 

One of the big problems with this is that it puts you on the defensive.  You've trained your mind to focus on negative occurences only.  Everything negative that happens can ONLY happen because you are fat, a woman, a minority, are short, are physically impaired or whatever. 
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		<title>From My Heart&#8230;</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/from-my-heart/</link>
		<comments>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/from-my-heart/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 07 May 2010 18:50:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Lesson Learned]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acceptance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[confession]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[epiphany]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[lesson]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://bigdivahq.com/?p=240</guid>
		<description><![CDATA["Dear Universe,

I finally realize what you've been trying to tell me. All of these things going on around me have made it crystal clear. I am listening and I've heard you. Changes are coming soon. Peace and Blessings..."  - Me (Ms. Pillowz)]]></description>
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		<title>Much Ado About Goals</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/much-ado-about-goals/</link>
		<comments>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/much-ado-about-goals/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Apr 2010 16:47:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Personal Development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[achievement]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[goal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[goals]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[new year]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[resolution]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[SMART]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[success]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://bigdivahq.com/?p=226</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Now some of you may be wondering what my beef is with resolutions.  Actually, I have no beef at all.  I'm glad that people thought about something that they hope will change in the new year, BUT a resolution is just a start.  People tend to make them and then stop there.  In essence, it's simply a wish.  You wish that you would lose weight or quit smoking or cut down on spending...]]></description>
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		<title>Happy New Year!!</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/happy-new-year/</link>
		<comments>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/happy-new-year/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 16 Jan 2010 14:13:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Personal Development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[future]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Happy New Year]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[plans]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[You know what they say:  New year, new beginning!  Out with the old and in with the new: new attitude, new good habits, new relationships, new experiences.  It's time to reassess the things that happened last year and make a plan for what you want to happen in the new year.  It's time to move forward!

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		<title>Ode to Aging</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/ode-to-aging/</link>
		<comments>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/ode-to-aging/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:46:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Personal Development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acceptance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[aging]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[body]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forgiveness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gratitude]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[weight]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[youth]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://bigdivahq.com/?p=205</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[My face wasn't this chubby.  The sides of my face were not as shaded as they are now.  My eyesight hasn't been great since the 2nd grade, but every prescription gets stronger.  My hearing isn't as sharp as it used to be.  My feet are bigger and wider.  When in the hell did hair start growing over my top lip and under my chin?  The Girls are singing, "Swing low, sweet chariot..."  Losing weight is not as easy as it used to be.  But you know what?  I am becoming okay with that.  These are simply my observations, not complaints.  

I tell you this, because when you're young, you don't think about how your body will change.  You don't appreciate your body at all.  You pick, prod, poke, and complain.  You stand in the mirror hating the way it looks and wishing it was more like *insert celebrity's name here*.  You spend your time hiding your body, not realizing that one day it will be different...]]></description>
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		<title>The Whales Are Out Tonight! (No Shade)</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/the-whales-are-out-tonight-no-shade/</link>
		<comments>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/the-whales-are-out-tonight-no-shade/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:16:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Lesson Learned]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bbws]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[empowerment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Facebook]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forgiveness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gratitude]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[lesson]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[plus size]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[social media]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[whales]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://bigdivahq.com/?p=191</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[That post pissed me off.  It wasn't because I took it personally, but because he was content to take money from the "whales" and then talk like that about them.  I wanted to make a point and let him and others know that this was not ok to do, as an entrepreneur especially.  However, in the back of my mind, I was thinking about how I didn't want to make waves.  That old nagging feeling implored me to shrug it off and keep what I really thought to myself. 
 
Nonsense!!  I am not the same person that I was years ago.  I'm not one to go along to get along anymore.  ]]></description>
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		<title>How a Drive By Changed My Life &#8211; Conclusion</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/how-a-drive-by-changed-my-life-conclusion/</link>
		<comments>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/how-a-drive-by-changed-my-life-conclusion/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 05 Dec 2009 01:33:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Lesson Learned]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[goals]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Jack Canfield]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[law of attraction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[lesson]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Oprah]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[The Secret]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://bigdivahq.com/?p=171</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I knew that I didn't totally want to lose that fire that I felt right afterwards, but I was fading fast.  Indecision, lack of direction, and not accomplishing any goals was sucking the motivation right out of me.  One day at work, somehow I found Oprah's The Secret episodes.  I had heard about The Secret before and even bought theaudiobook a couple years ago. I found the music and the Australian accent distracting, so I never finished it.  I don't think that I was truly ready to hear the message at that time.

I watched both episodes as well as her after show specials, and something clicked...]]></description>
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		<title>The Saddle</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/the-saddle/</link>
		<comments>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/the-saddle/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Nov 2009 23:38:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Personal Development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[acknowledgement]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[apology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[blessing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[obstacle]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self sabotage]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://bigdivahq.com/?p=145</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I had this laundry list of the reasons that I haven't posted in so long, but I balled it up and threw it away.  I don't necessarily want to focus on falling off the saddle except to acknowledge it and apologize for doing so.  I'm not even going to say that it won't happen again, because that would be a lie and it is important for me to be honest with you.  I can, however, say that I hope that it won't happen again.

Instead, I'd like to focus on the blessing or the silver lining.  Through not posting, I realize how many people read and enjoy my posts despite the lack of posting comments.  The other positve is that I have come to know that a part of me that I'd hoped was gone is not.  

Since high school, I had this tendency that when things were going well: diets, exercise programs, schedules that I set for studying, things that I set up to correct a behavior, something within me had other ideas.  
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