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		<title>The Approach</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 25 May 2010 02:30:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I first heard that I would be going to California, I was pretty nervous.  I had no idea what to expect.  I mean, it's the OC for goodness sakes.  Wasn't there a show on tv of the same name?  Any and everything that I've ever seen or heard about Cali is that everyone is tiny, blond, shallow, and has fake body parts.   In my mind, this definitely wasn't a Big Diva friendly place at all.  The worst case scenario is that I would be looked at and treated like Shrek.

Do you see what I did here?  Based on fictional movies and shows, I was bracing myself.  I was developing the chip on my shoulder.  I WAS CREATING THE INTENTION! (Law of Attraction).  My assumption that everyone in the LA /OC area was or wanted to look like a stuck up Barbie doll caused me to think that they would look down their noses at me. 

One of the big problems with this is that it puts you on the defensive.  You've trained your mind to focus on negative occurences only.  Everything negative that happens can ONLY happen because you are fat, a woman, a minority, are short, are physically impaired or whatever. 
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		<title>From My Heart&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 07 May 2010 18:50:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA["Dear Universe,

I finally realize what you've been trying to tell me. All of these things going on around me have made it crystal clear. I am listening and I've heard you. Changes are coming soon. Peace and Blessings..."  - Me (Ms. Pillowz)]]></description>
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		<title>The Whales Are Out Tonight! (No Shade)</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:16:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[That post pissed me off.  It wasn't because I took it personally, but because he was content to take money from the "whales" and then talk like that about them.  I wanted to make a point and let him and others know that this was not ok to do, as an entrepreneur especially.  However, in the back of my mind, I was thinking about how I didn't want to make waves.  That old nagging feeling implored me to shrug it off and keep what I really thought to myself. 
 
Nonsense!!  I am not the same person that I was years ago.  I'm not one to go along to get along anymore.  ]]></description>
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		<title>How a Drive By Changed My Life &#8211; Conclusion</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/personal-development/how-a-drive-by-changed-my-life-conclusion/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 05 Dec 2009 01:33:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I knew that I didn't totally want to lose that fire that I felt right afterwards, but I was fading fast.  Indecision, lack of direction, and not accomplishing any goals was sucking the motivation right out of me.  One day at work, somehow I found Oprah's The Secret episodes.  I had heard about The Secret before and even bought theaudiobook a couple years ago. I found the music and the Australian accent distracting, so I never finished it.  I don't think that I was truly ready to hear the message at that time.

I watched both episodes as well as her after show specials, and something clicked...]]></description>
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		<title>How a Drive By Changed My Life &#8211; Part II</title>
		<link>http://bigdivahq.com/lesson-learned/how-a-drive-by-changed-my-life-part-ii/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2009 19:04:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The entire trip home was spent in gratitude.  I was grateful to be alive.  Grateful to have so many great people in my life who inspired me and loved me.  I was grateful for everything that I'd been through, including the drive by, and I was extremely grateful for where I was in life.  I've been through a lot: self destructive behavior, depression, bad relationships, more issues than a newstand, and plenty of bad choices.  At the time it all felt horrible.  I felt helpless, desperate, and unworthy of goodness.  Despite it all, eventually it passed, as it always does.  On the other side of that mess was victory.  I became a much stronger person because of all of it.
 
I'd certainly come a long way, but I still had a ways to go.  There were still many things that I needed to do.  I would love to tell you that from that point on, I turned everything around and got busy fulfilling my dreams, because I didn't.  ]]></description>
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		<title>How a Drive By Changed My Life</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:30:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Everything went by in slow motion.  Before we crossed paths, the back passenger window rolled down and I could vividly see a hand holding a handgun come out.  Shots were fired down the street that I was crossing.  Pop! Pop! Pop! Pop!  I slammed on the breaks and...]]></description>
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		<title>&#8220;L&#8217;elevator?  It&#8217;s for handicapped people&#8230;&#8221;</title>
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		<comments>http://bigdivahq.com/lesson-learned/lelevator-its-for-handicapped-people/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Oct 2009 19:33:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ms. Pillowz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[So there I was acting as a tour guide to two ladies from Australia, whom I'd met at the Eiffel Tour, and I was told that the elevators weren't for us.  We all looked at each other like, "Do we even want to bother?"  Nonsense!  This is Paris, not some place around the corner!  We had to go up there!  The youngest lady went first, then me, the second lady, and a handful of some other tourists.  The stairs were narrow and very windy, so if one person stopped, everyone else would have to wait.  I was so worried.  ]]></description>
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