You know what they say: New year, new beginning! Out with the old and in with the new: new attitude, new good habits, new relationships, new experiences. It’s time to reassess the things that happened last year and make a plan for what you want to happen in the new year. It’s time to move forward.
Before the end of the year, I heard so many people say that they could not wait for 2009 to be over. Here’s an example of some of the complaints:
- This was such a horrible year. I’m 37 and still unmarried, all of the good guys are taken or dead.
- I lost my job.
- My neighbor and I aren’t speaking ever since he parked in a spot that I shoveled out from under 2 feet of snow.
- My kids are so bad; and the list continues.
A new year + a fresh start + new goals + new hopes + the SAME PERSON, (dragging baggage, negativity, and all) = THE SAME EXPERIENCES! Everything in that equation is new, except the person. Did you notice that? A change of scenery, a new job, a new significant other, a new whatever is not going to change anyone’s life unless some changes are made internally.
Every year, many of us start out with resolutions. You know the main ones: lose weight, exercise more, get organized / declutter, cut back on spending and save more money, quit smoking and / or drinking, and get out more and enjoy life. It’s a great idea, but most resolutions don’t last. That is because most people don’t bother to make any internal changes, which could help to make lasting positive external changes.
Long lasting change starts with an HONEST assessment of yourself to figure out where there are blockages. These blockages may require forgiveness and letting go. We’ll go deeper into that in another post.
So for now, shift your focus from the negative aspect of last year to the positive. Look at some of your complaints and search for the positive in them. Let’s take a couple of the complaints from above: “I’m 37 and still unmarried, all of the good guys are taken or dead.” We can flip this to a positive by saying, “I am grateful for being single last year. It gave me time to focus on my children. It allowed me to work on myself, tend to my needs, and helped prepare me for a positive relationship in the future. Now, I am ready to get out there and find my partner.” That is a good starting point, and from there you can figure out how you are going to do that.
Another complaint mentioned above was the loss of a job. That complaint could be flipped by saying, “I may not have been ready to lose my job, but I am strong and am sure that I will come out on top. I know that all things happen for a reason and in the right time. I have faith that everything will work out just fine. I can use this time to work on my career goals. There are so many things that I can do with this time to cultivate my other interests and skills. I have it in me to dig deep and prosper.” So many people have used this time to take classes, change their career focus to another industry, and even start their own businesses.
What were some of the complaints that you made at the start of the year and how can you flip them into the positive? You still have time to change your focus and change direction of your new year. I guarantee that!
In the coming blog posts this month and next, we’ll talk about personal responsibility, forgiveness and letting go, goal setting, money, the importance of water, the power of affirmations, and more. I’ll share with you the bloggers that have helped me along my journey to Big Divadom with the hopes that they, too, can help you. I’ll also be introducing exercises, homework assignments, and my 30 day experiments. This is going to be a big year for BDHq!! Be here and present!
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Ahh youth… Such a wonderful thing. I’m here to tell all of you spring chickens to take note. Cherish your youth! Revel in it, enjoy it, appreciate it, LOVE IT!! Things change when you get older.
I used to laugh when my mom and my aunts would warn my sister and I about the changes they had gone through with aging. Now, everyday I am reminded of what they were saying. I’m in my 30s and I deal with aging on such a small scale compared to others. Even though I have just a few gray hairs and no wrinkles, I can still tell that I’m going through changes. Not THE change, (menopause), but changes. lol
Some examples:
Here’s more:
I tell you this, because when you’re young, you don’t think about how your body will change. You don’t appreciate your body at all. You pick, prod, poke, and complain. You stand in the mirror hating the way it looks and wishing it was more like *insert celebrity’s name here*. You spend your time hiding your body, not realizing that one day it will be different. You have children, your metabolism slows down, gravity takes it’s toll, and / or life happens.
i will realize that everyone jiggles. EVERYONE. thigh jigglies, stomach jigglies, arm jigglies, EVERYONE JIGGLES. i am not the only one, and i should not shake my pooch and then count the seconds, mesmerized, until the jiggling stops… this body is my body, and it is a blessing. i will appreciate it for what it is, reward its strengths, accept its shortcomings. i will strive to wake up each morning feeling good about myself and thanking it, and god, for all it has done for me, today and in the days to come. – Oh Honey. No.
Second one:
My shape is unique to me, and is not meant to look like anyone else. There is no “perfect” shape, and there never will be. The human race will not eventually conform to one appropriate body type, so neither should I. Energy spent on “if I were only”s will always have been better spent elsewhere. My thighs are not a curse, they are a reminder that I am strong. My soft stomach is not a sign of sloth and gluttony, it’s a sign of fair hedonism and proof that enjoying life is not less important than being “beautiful” in the eyes of the media.
I will not hold myself back from trying things because I’m worried about how my body will look or act. I will not skip dessert solely because I do not want the calories. I will treat my body as a temple, and there’s no rule that says “No Dessert in the Temple.” I will exercise my body because it needs it to function well, not so I can look like someone else, or obtain someone else’s figure. – The Demoiselles
So stand up and say this out loud like you mean it!
I AM PERFECT NOW! MY BODY IS PERFECT NOW! I LOVE MY BODY!
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The Whales Are Out Tonight! (No Shade)
Dec 07 2009
Posted by Ms. Pillowz as Lesson Learned, Personal Development
“The Philly whales are out in full force tonight…lol.”
”I will not be attending any parties thrown by company name, because there seems to be a problem with big girls in attendance. My money and I will party where we’re both truly welcomed.”
I’m a big girl and and I took no offense. It’s your page and you can say whatever you want. If the “whales” don’t like it, f*** them and they can bounce.
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How a Drive By Changed My Life – Conclusion
Dec 04 2009
Posted by Ms. Pillowz as Lesson Learned, Personal Development
I knew that I didn’t totally want to lose that fire that I felt right afterwards, but I was fading fast. Indecision, lack of direction, and not accomplishing any goals was sucking the motivation right out of me. One day at work, somehow I found Oprah’s The Secret episodes. I had heard about The Secret before and even bought the audiobook a couple years ago. I found the music and the Australian accent distracting, so I never finished it. I don’t think that I was truly ready to hear the message at that time.
I watched both episodes as well as her after show specials, and something clicked. The points that the authors made resonated with me completely. Her guests included James Ray, Lisa Nichols, Dr. Michael Beckwith, Jack Canfield, along with Rhonda Byrne, the author. I scoured Youtube looking for videos by them. (I’ll be sure to post a few later.)
The gist of the show was that my thoughts, conscious and unconscious, were creating my reality. I could see that. An example would be whenever I set my mind to something, opportunities would come out of the woodworks. Then I would say to myself that I was not good enough to get it done and I wouldn’t do it.
A couple weeks later, an I-Tunes update popped up on my screen. I don’t typically use I-Tunes, but I decided to see what it was about. I found a ton of FREE podcasts with interviews from many of The Secret guests. I also found Law of Attraction related podcasts as well as podcasts about hypnosis, detoxification, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), weight loss, goal setting and achievement, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), affirmations, meditations, and the power of gratitude. I listened to different ones every day for weeks. My mind was opened up to a ton of new ideas that I began incorporating into my life.
Since then, things have really shifted. I have even more confidence now. I’ve learned and fully accepted my purpose. Before, I never really made goals that I’ve stuck with. I’ve waivered on them, which is why it was difficult to see any achievement on the few long term goals that I set. I’ve since set goals for almost every area of my life: health and fitness, career, relationship and family, financial, legacy, personal, and recreation. (I’ve included an interview with Jack Canfield, one of my absolute favorite contributors to The Secret, at the end of this post.)
The reason I chose to share this story was to hopefully light a fire within you. You don’t have to wait until some kind of near death experience to change the direction of your life. Don’t wait until you can’t do any of the things that you’ve always wanted to do. Don’t wait, because tomorrow is not promised to you. Besides death, accidents, debilitating illnesses, financial emergencies, fear, and other circumstances can change the game for anyone. Don’t wait. You only have one shot at this life. Don’t waste it!
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I have to apologize. Not only do I owe you the conclusion to a story, but I owe you a better effort to keep posts consistent. I haven’t posted in a month of Sundays. *Sidebar: Can someone please tell me where the that saying came from?* I digress.
I had this laundry list of the reasons that I haven’t posted in so long, but I balled it up and threw it away. I don’t necessarily want to focus on falling off the saddle except to acknowledge it and apologize for doing so. I’m not even going to say that it won’t happen again, because that would be a lie and it is important for me to be honest with you. I can, however, say that I hope that it won’t happen again.
Instead, I’d like to focus on the blessing or the silver lining. Through not posting, I realize how many people read and enjoy my posts despite the lack of posting comments. The other positve is that I have come to know that a part of me that I’d hoped was gone is not.
Since high school, I had this tendency that when things were going well: diets, exercise programs, schedules that I set for studying, things that I set up to correct a behavior, something within me had other ideas. It would throw a monkey wrench in my spokes and sabotage everything. It was completel out of control. The motivation and encouragement that I had to continue the good things that I was doing would suddenly disappear and turn into this bored and lazy attitude. Then things would go back to the usual. I’d go back to eating like before, quit exercising, and then gain back every pound that I’d lost. My studies fell off and my goals would be left unachieved. I didn’t understand what it was in the beginning. I thought that there was something wrong with me and that no one else had this issue. Turns out that I was wrong.
I’m not sure why, but I noticed it a lot less these past few years. Since so many great things have been happening lately, I thought that it was a thing of the past, but it has creeped back into the picture. To be totally honest, I’m not sure that it ever left. *sigh* This is so frustrating. I don’t know why the self sabotage is happening. Maybe it is fear of change or of being successful. Maybe it is just about remaining comfortable. Maybe it is my subconscious playing a preprogrammed and out of date tape. Whatever it is, knowing that it is still there is a blessing.
I firmly believe that I have what it takes to acheive all of my goals and be succesfull. I believe that I can have the life that I want down to the type of rims I want on my car, but if there are some things in my subconscious that I don’t deal with, then either it will be much harder to fight with myself to acheive my goals and / or my successes will slip right through my fingers.
Acknowledgment is the first step to dealing with any issues and now that I have acknowledged the self sabotage, I am prepared to get back in the saddle and find a solution to deal with it and not let it hinder me any further. I will keep you updated on my findings and I will also be posting the conclusion to “How a Drive By Changed My Life” very soon. Thank you for sticking around! I hope that all of you had an wonderful Thanksgiving holiday!
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by Devin Alexander and Cook Yourself Thin
,so that I’d have more healthy meal options. I get bored eating the same thing everyday and once I get bored, I head back to old favorites. Meals also have to be quick and easy to prepare. I don’t want to spend the last few hours I have before bedtime cleaning, chopping, marinating, seasoning, cooking, and then eating. 
. If you start eating regularly right at the end, YOU WILL BE SICK! You can go back to eating what you want, but there is a process that you have to go through in order to reintroduce your body to food.2. Did you have any difficulty coming off of the cleanse at all?
3. What were your physical results? Did you achieve your goals?
4. Did you achieve the non-physical goals, that you listed before starting?
5. What were your harderst days? What were some problems that you experienced?
6. How did you work through them?
7. Now that it has ended, how are your cravings?
8. What type of changes have you made to your diet so far? What changes do you plan to incorporate later? What will you do to maintain your progress?
9. Would you ever do the cleanse again? If so, how might you incorporate it into your life?
10. Would you recommend the cleanse to others?
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1. Why are you participating in the cleanse? What do you hope to achieve as a result?
2. What are some goals that you hope to achieve, other than physical ones, while on the cleanse or shortly thereafter?
3. What, if anything, would you like to change about your current diet?
4. After the cleanse, it’s highly recommended that you change to a raw diet. That may not work for some of you, so what kind of changes could you make to maintain your progress?
5. What might be the reason that you would quit before 10 days?
6. What could you do to keep from quitting?
7. What if you don’t achieve the results that you want or had expected?
8. I’ve read that it is best to rest and keep yourself busy so that you don’t think about food or hunger. What can you do to occupy your time, which doesn’t require a lot of energy?
9. I’ve also read that at some point your energy level increases. It’s been said that it is good to get involved in some physical activities as an outlet. What are some things that you could do?
10. Would you consider doing the program for longer than 10 days?
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A couple days ago, I posted 5 Benefits to the Master Cleanse. Here is the final installment with 5 more benefits of the program. Enjoy!
1. Increased energy – After work I would go home, eat, and park it on the couch to watch tv, because that was all that I could do. I felt no energy to use the remainder of the day to get my personal stuff done. Six pm might as well have been midnight. Now, when I get out of that bed in the morning, I am charged. When I get home, I am still pretty charged. I can get things done for me and I feel good doing it.
2. Reworking eating habits - All of the trouble that you go to when you go through detox and seeing what comes out will definitely change some things. You will not want to put that same stuff back. I thought about the kinds of things that I would eat once the cleanse was finished, BEFORE the cleanse was over. Once I did that, I went through my kitchen and cleared it of the things that were not good for me and restocked with the good healthy foods. Most of the things that I no longer wanted I donated. I didn’t give myself a chance to go back to those old eating habits.
3. Getting in touch with the body – When you’re focusing on how you feel and symptoms from reactions that you are having while detoxing, you become a lot more sensitive to your body and it’s signals. You have a better sense of when you are hungry, when you’re getting sick, and of your emotions during this process. You appreciate how amazing the body truly is. It is so astounding how this vessel works for us and how well it works. You want to treat it better. You see and feel the connection between what you put in it and how well it does it’s job and you want it to be optimal. It’s pretty spiritual really.
4. Realizing your strength – There are so many things that go through your mind when you consider doing the cleanse. “Damn! Ten days is like forever. I can’t possibly last 10 days without eating. I would gnaw off my own hand. It’s impossible!” You decide to do it. You barely make it through day 1. Day 2 is tough, but not like the 1st day. Day 3 is much better. It almost feels like easy street. Then day 4 comes and goes and so on until day 10. You realize that both you and your body are stronger than you give credit for. If the impossible is clearly possible, then what else are you keeping yourself from doing?
5. Finding time – You notice how much food takes up space in your life. Since you can’t eat, you fill all of that time with activity, from going to the gym to weatherproofing your house. You find time that you never thought existed. My weekends fly by just like everyone’s does, but while doing the cleanse, they’ve felt like extended holidays. I’ve always had enough things to do, more than enough actually, but now I have the time and energy to do them.
I am sure that there are more things that I am not touching on. For those that decide to do it, I want to leave it up to you to experience these benefits and come up with some new ones. Please feel free to comment about it or comment on some of the other posts that I’ve written. Next post: Concerns and Myths of the Master Cleanse. I hope to see you back! 
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